Why is it often so very difficult to get your ex boyfriend back?
Well, the real answer of why it’s difficult to get your ex boyfriend back is two-fold:
1) If we’re still in love with someone who dumps us, the balance of power immediately shifts in his direction.
2) We have no real idea what to do to successfully get back with someone we love. As a result, we spend a great deal of time racing around doing all the wrong things.
Truth is, once your ex boyfriend gains the upper hand in a break up, you can find yourself forever trying to catch up to them and both of you know it. If your ex knows that you want them back, frequently they’ll make you work to get them back. And, to top that off, they often really enjoy the drama of putting you through the paces of getting back together. Suffice to say, they have something that you want desperately and, well girlfriend, do they know it.
So what if you’re desperate to get your ex boyfriend back? Play it cool!
Don’t declare right off the bat to your ex boyfriend that you want him back. Simply keep that little tidbit of information to yourself, while making every effort to distance yourself from him.
A word of caution here! Many of us, when faced with trying to keep our distance from our ex boyfriends, simply can’t do it. We mistakenly believe that if we run around doing favors for our exes that they’ll surely see us as someone they need. We think we’ll be able to prove to our ex boyfriends how much we love them by being there for them.
This approach seldom works. What happens is, our ex boyfriend either gets fed up with us hanging around in his life, or he’ll start to take advantage of the situation. So, please, don’t fall into that trap!
Instead, keep your distance. Then you’ll feel the power naturally swing back your way, and you’ll be in a much better position to get your ex boyfriend back.