Many of you have probably heard about No Contact and are wondering if it works. For those of you who don’t know, No Contact is basically about not initiating any communication at all with your ex. It is not recommended for every break up out there, but it does work on some.
Here are some things you need to know to get your ex girlfriend back with no contact.
1.No Contact will give you both time to heal
When a couple breaks up, there are lots of hurts and pains that need to healed first before you can even consider the thought of getting back together. It’s a cliché, but time does heal.
It will also keep your ex from seeing you at your lowest moments. A break up can be really hard on a man, and it can make him act in ways that he normally wouldn’t do in regular circumstances. Using the No Contact will help you avoid doing things that may end up pushing your ex farther away and even out of your reach forever.
How to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back With No Contact
2. No Contact will give you both time to reflect and understand what went wrong
When you aren’t in contact with your ex, both of you can reflect on what happened and understand what went wrong. Maybe you’ve started to take for her granted, or maybe she misses how both of you acted in the beginning.
Whatever the reason, this time of No Contact will help you realize a lot of things and help you build a stronger relationship if you get back together. It will also give her time to reassess her feelings and will make her wonder if you two could’ve made things work if things had worked out differently.
3. No Contact will make her realize how much she misses you
When you enforce No Contact, it will give her time to miss you and remember the happy moments you spent together. She will start feeling lonely and recall the things you did together that can no longer be now that you’ve broken up.
But if you’re always calling her and acting that you’re there, she won’t be able to miss you and it won’t give her a reason to think of returning back to you.
No Contact is basically about you not initiating the contact and waiting for her to do it. Once she is able to go through these steps of healing, reflection and realization, then she will be the one to come to you.
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My boyfriend and I been getting in fights lately mostly about his ex girlfriend. We have been together for six months but he said he saw her five months ago, So we were talking yesterday and he called his ex his girlfriend. I was hurt but before i yelled at him i talk to me friends about it. They told me to kick him to the curb but i cant.
What do u think i should I should do?
2 days ago I called my ex because she had called the night before. I didn’t answer. So yesterday I called her and asked hey “hey what’s up? how come you called?” and she was like “just to talk..” and than , like most ex’s , asked her “give it to me straight are you seeing someone else?” Complete silence and than she just hung up. 2 minutes later she messaged me with “Btw I’m not I’m just busy and I don’t like u drilling me” , she sent that message twice and than she said “Oh so nor ur gonna ignore when I answer u” and than the last message was “Which I didn’t have to answer”. I responded 2 hours later saying “Thank you for answering and I didn’t want you to feel like I was bothering you”. That was the last thing I said and no contact so far. What do you guys think? Don’t say how she’s playing games or such , just need to know how badly I messed up.
4 hours ago – 4 days left to answer.
P.S
I also wrote her an apology letter 4 days ago and sent it snail mail , called her on the same day she received it and was like “the only reason i’m answering is because of your apology letter”.
It’s been a year since my ex girlfriend broke uP with me. We dated for three years on and off but never got it right. Since the day she had broken up with me we had absolutely no contact what’s so ever. To be honest it has help me get over her quicker than if I had any even little contact with her. It took about three months but I am 100 percent over her.. I was just thinking is it ok just to say hi or even ask what she’s been up too because a year has past and I don’t have no hate or loving feelings for her. I know she won’t get the wrong idea or even want me back( trust me I know) so is wrong just to say what’s up?
My ex and I were together for 8 yrs and its been only 4 days since the break up. We broke up because of a communication break down on my part and I wanted to contact him to tell him the reason for my physical and emotional distance. I’d like to tell him this before he decides in his own mind that this is it, but I also don’t want to blow the one chance of getting back with him. I know that theres a period where a call from the ex girlfriend can scare them off and mean no reconciliation. I know its always better for him to call you first, but I think this information would help him decide on which way he wants to go with this.
We dated for almost 6 years. he started seeing someone 2 weeks before we actually broke up and got into a relationship with the other woman soon after. They dated for about 5 months until he decided that she is such a negative person and almost suicidal. He kept in contact with me halfway through their relationship then we finally hung out and he started to feel regret and slowly let her go but she would take drugs and threaten to kill herself if he left her. He had to stick around a bit longer and pretend to be her boyfriend until he could get past her negativity and leave her alone.
It has been almost 7 months since he ended his relationship with the negative girl & we’ve also been talking. We just recently discussed why he cheated and went through that phase. However, I still feel angry and disgusted that he had sex with her even though we weren’t together. I guess it’s because we were each other’s firsts and there was no one else. I don’t know how i’m going to get past this & trust him again.
I want to know why guys cheat after being in a long relationship then all of a sudden go back to us. How do I know he really regrets his mistake? I want to take him back, but not too easily… I just don’t know if what he’s showing me now is worthy of taking him back. How did you get your ex-girlfriend back after you cheated on her?
He gave me 4 promise rings that I wore almost everyday & I gave them back to him when we broke up. He wears one with my name on it everyday on his pinky. It even left a tan line on his finger. I told him that I couldn’t hold on to them for as long as we don’t have a relationship.
He’s taking me out on an official date this thursday to watch Goapele. She sang our song: Closer. I have a feeling that he’s going to ask me to be his girlfriend w/ the rings I gave back to him. As sweet as the setting may be almost perfect, I’m not sure if I am ready…
I dont want to take him back too soon to think that i’m that easy. Is 7 months a long time?
i cant seem to forget about my ex girlfriend even tho im going out with a new girlfriend now.
its been a year and half since me and my ex girlfriend dated and i still cant get her out my mind.
Curious to know if an abuser quickly moves on, if his ex girlfriend did not give into his pleading and begging to stay in the relationship. Also, if he wanted to marry her, though they dated for a short period. As all along he proclaimed that he loved her.
Would he have forgotten his ex and moved on?
The reason for the break up is of course his horrible behaviour.
Pearl and Happy-2 the reason I ask, is because its difficult for the victim to forget the abuse and one is extra cautious to move on.
My gf and I split up 5 months ago,the break up was hard on her, and we stayed close and acted like we were out the whole time, we did all the stuff u do when your dating. 2 weeks ago she asked if i still loved her and i said yes, it made me realise all the feelings i had so i asked her back out, she said no, she said she has had to much pain and doesnt wnat that again. She slept with someon else and said she realised she isnt as hung up on me as she thought, it was just a 1 night stand. I’ve turned into your cliche, not eating, sleeping, always thinking about it. We have done his before breaking up and den havin one nights stands with other people and i won her back, she says she doesn’t love me like she did but she said that last time. I have had long chats with her and she said she doesn’t want anybody and wants space and to enjoy life. i kept goin on and she said she wanted space and i gave her that, she wants to get back to bein close like we have for the past few months. I wrote her a letter and she said she is sorry about the way im feeling because she has felt liek that for 5 months, she said she spent all that time thinking about me, so i wish i said something sooner, i feel ive missed my chance. she also said that she feels its happened for a reason and it upsets her 2 but she cnt help it, she cares alot. She said she doesnt wnat any1 and she wants to be the good friends that we are. And the way i see my life is if im meant to ill get the feelings back but i really dnt want it at the mo! we always hang out and she calls me her best friend and i said about goin cinema and she said we will do stuff liek dat because i am really important to her. Im totally confused because we have split up a 3 times and gone back out and its been great, she has taken all splits quite hard in the past. Im confused because how can she fall out of love in 2 weeks? why is she wanting to keep me so close yet tellin me she desnt have those feelings for me but if there meant 2 den they’ll come back? im not bothered about the other bloke because last time we split we both slept with other people and then went back out together. i dont no whether to throw in the towel, or to not have contact and see if she comes back or what? i really love her and i know shes loved me for 3 years, how can that be lost in 2 weeks? is she just wanting to have fun and keep me there? or is it definately all over?? i dont get the siuation at all!! any help??
Ok long story short my gf of 2 and a half years broke up with me for someone else she met about 3 months ago. I am devastated and heartbroken…I don’t know what to do. I really want her back.
She has texted me and told me she feels bad for hurting me but she loves this other person.
I am so angry and depressed…
I am applying the no contact rule and have bought a book on how to win your ex girlfriend back and it talks about acting happy and not letting her see you are upset and stuff like that.
How much chance do I have to get her back?
I am doing everything the book says…now I just gotta wait and see what happens I guess.
Any tips?
How does a guy go about getting over an ex girlfriend? We just recently broke up, and she wants to be friends, but I don’t want to be. Am I alone in thinking that if someone is trying to get over their ex girlfriend, being friends with them actually slow the process, and makes it more difficult?
How do you guys do it?
I had an ex-girlfriend who broke up with me a little over 4 months ago. A couple of months ago we began talking again, and started seeing each other. We would talk on a daily basis, acting like we were a couple. So, then i’d ask her if she thought we would ever get together again, and she says she’d hope to, but in the mean time she loves me and wants to see where things go. Not too long ago, I almost had it, because I am in love with this girl and she still wont commit to me saying it doesnt feel right yet but she misses me. Ever since that happend, communication has soften a little, but talked very gradual. We are going to have Valentines together and go to a sporting even in a couple of weeks. I dont know what to do and why she wont commit. Do I just ignore her for a little and hope she sees she might lose something, or go for the ride still and stop complaining. It just the fact its been going on for almost 2 1/2 months. Any suggestions?
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two weeks ago (while she was still in a relationship her boyfriend after me) my ex girlfriend told me that she couldnt stop thinking about me. whenever she saw someone kiss, she thought of me not her boyfriend. she told me how well i treated her. she got my hopes up… and she broke up with her boyfriend the other day, and recently just told me that all of what she thought has gone away. is that even possible? and how do i deal with it???
My ex-girlfriend broke up with me almost three weeks ago, and besides 2-3 texts we’ve been in no contact. At first I ignored her, but then she started smiling at me, so I did the same in return. We still haven’t spoken since the split, though. This girl really means a lot to me, and I tried really hard to be the best boyfriend for her during the 6 months we dated. Anyways, I think we’re on friendly terms now, but I’m planning on trying to get her back, should I continue making an effort to be her friend? Or should I stay in no contact and wait for her to initiate? Girls, I would really appreciate your help, as well as with general advice on how to get your ex-girlfriend back. Guys can feel free to answer too! I need advice from everyone. Thank you so much!
We dated for 3.5 years, she broke up with me about a month ago. But she still calls me, texts me, and asks me to go about 2 or 3 times per week. I tried to go no contact with her but it never lasted more than a day and a half because she would call my phone and text me about 3x more than usual. So I wind up calling her back. I really love her and do want her back. We broke up because I have some changes to make in my life. Basically, it’s very stressful because of my job. I made up my mind to go back to my old profession and I will be working less than half the time I do now and making more than twice the money. I have also started running and working out. I feel great. I want to be the person I was when we first met. Not to just get her back but to be that person again. I was confident, energetic, fun to be with, and ambitious. I am well on my way. But how do I get her back? She broke up with me. Will she eventually let me know if she wants to? She now brings up all the good times we’ve had, touches me, we laugh together, but no bf gf stuff going on at all. It’s only been a month. Is it too soon? Does she need to see that these changes are for real and not just to get her back? How do I get her back?
My ex girlfriend and I have the same class together how can I stop thinking about her I miss her so much but I can’t do nothing about it. She tear my heart apart and i still can’t stop thinking about her is been a month since we broke up. What should I do I need advices please help.
Okay I need as much advice and help as possible, hopefully decent advice and no slagging off. I was with my girl for 10 months and it was a bit of a rollarcoaster. In the first 5 weeks of our relationship she got drunk at her prom and kissed a few boys. I let her back in far too quickly as I really felt we had something special. Anyway I let her back in almsot straight away (which was probably a mistake) and she promised me it would never happen again and her friends made her drink way over her limits. Anyways she managed to stick to her promise and did nothing whatsoever to hurt me in the following 9 months. However during this time I began treating her badly and we began having lots of arguements, mostly over trust issues. Basically I banned her from partys and in return she banned me from clubbing (as I don’t do partys there terrible). Anyway over time the relationship got amazing but on the other hand unhealthy. After 7 months we actually started to begin thinking about having a kid next year and marriage in 5 years. The unhealthy side of the relationship was because we were controlling eachothers social life. And we started seeing each other 24/7 and whenever we weren’t together we would argue due to her paranoia with the amount of girls that would always chat me up etc etc. So anyway she began to hate the amount of girls adding me on msn and facebook and requested for each other to exchange passwords, so we did. A few days later I realised that virtually my entire girl contacts were erased, which I didn’t have a problem with as most of them were random and she left my close friends on there. In return I thought hey lets make it even I will do the same with her boy contacts so it all span into a bit of an immature game really. However, last weekend she had a house party at her mams best friends house and I refused to let her go but she had to go. I told her after all the nights out with the boys you’ve banned me of your going to be selfish enough to go, basically I was stupid, I didn’t take into account that her mam and her family would be attending therefore there would be no trouble. When her mam found out about this trust issue we had she went bannanas as we kept it all hidden away. The sunday after the party, her mam was questioning why she didn’t participate much during te party, and she told her mam that she just wanted to be around me 24/7 (which was actually true). However when I took her home, shortly after her and her mam had a fight where her mother slapped her in the face and then she scrammed her mam back. After this she was grounded for a week, stripped off all contact for a week until her step dad came back from work to discuss the issue. No phone, no nothing. So we weren’t used to this and started getitng rather sick. Anyway we thought fuck this and agreed for one day of the week to see eachotehr behind closed doors up her school 9only for her sister to spot my car and go home and tell her mam). Anyway when she found out about me controlling her facebook and msn and partys she lost her head and cut me off completely. 2 days after this break up I’ve been suffering like hell, and I’ve been told by one of her friends that she has been the same and isn’t attending school until after easter. I realised now that I should have just let the past be the past and not use it against her and treat her badly for what she did. I became a control freak and my paranoia was actually bigger than hers which she was unaware of. It seems as if we are over for good. However my mam seen them both in the town centre earlier today and her mam said for there to be any chance whatsoever of her changing her mind I would have to change the way I am completely and improve as I was controlling her duaghters life (she fails to realise that all her daughter wanted was to be with me 24/7) but at ages 18 and 17 maybe that’s just unhealthy. Basically I just need some huge advice. I’ve written a letter to her which I am going to post into her works, letting her know how much pain im in and how sorry I am as we promise to be together forever. It’s such a sad story and such a sour way to end a relationship of such brute strength. Her mam told my father that she had become my posession and that I would have to change my ways to have any chance of her changing her mind. She told my mother that after some time to think about things if I am man enough to go up to her mam’s house and talk to her then I could. So next week I plan on doing this. Me and her parents have never been on the same wavelength but vice-versa my parents love her too bits and today when she seen my mother broke down in tears and hugged her for half hour infront of her mam. Well I had this ever-growing fear that she would listen to her mother and just move on but her best boy mate told me she loves me too much and now my mam has said she would be highly suprised if that was the case. And actually she was worried about me moving on also! I just need some advic
Its been 2 months since she broke up with me, and a lot of stuff has happend inbetween. To make this short, the recent deal is that we talk as friends. She usually doesnt talk to me first, but if i text her, she responds and is happy to talk. Recently i was helping her get over my best friend, because she likes him and he will never like her, and i was helping her. I thought maybe she would realize i was being nice and helpful. And, i had a party at my house and invited her, and i know she wanted to come but she couldnt. So, i really do still like her. And ive read so much online on how to get her back, and i cant find the right thing to do at this point in trying to get back. I did no contact for 3 weeks, she texted me, and now we talk as friends. But, what should i do? Should i just text her and be flirty and bring up old times, maybe tell her i still like her? Or should i possibly date another girl to try and get her a bit jealous? Dont comment if you dont know what your talking about please, i just need someone who has been in this sitaution and was successful at getting them back. Advice would be great, thanks!
My ex-girlfriend of six months just broke up with me a little over three weeks ago. Besides 2-3 texts we’ve been in no contact, and at first I ignored her because I was feeling so many emotions towards her at one. She just started smiling at me though, so I did the same in return, and I have the feeling she’s trying to get back on friendly terms with me, as one thing she mentioned during the breakup was how she wanted to remain close. Should I continue making an effort to be her friend if I want to get her back? Or should I stay in no contact and wait for her to initiate conversation to show she misses me? Any advice on this topic, as well as with general advice on how to get your ex-girlfriend back, would be much appreciated.
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what can i get my ex girlfriend for christmas. we have only recently split up, we have a 7 month year old daughter together. i want to get back with her but shes so down and says she doesnt no if she wants to try again. any ideas what i can get her?
My ex-girlfriend broke up with me almost three weeks ago, and besides 2-3 texts we’ve been in no contact. At first I ignored her, but then she started smiling at me, so I did the same in return. We still haven’t spoken since the split, though. This girl really means a lot to me, and I tried to verge best boyfriend for her during the 6 months we dated. Anyways, I think we’re on friendly terms now, but I’d I plan on trying to get her back, should I continue making an effort to be her friend? Girls and guys, I would really appreciate your help, as well as with general advice on how to get your ex-girlfriend back. Thank you so much!
What do you have to take to get back with an ex girlfriend?
Say that you’ve been with other girls since, but none of them were that great, and you and your ex are back in contact? She’s single, you’re single. You’re relationship before was alright.
My ex girlfriend for 8 months hasn’t talked to me in a week and she ended it by saying she never ever wants to be with me again. A week later she calls me 5 times and leaves 2 text messages about her sleeping with dougie(stuffed animal turtle) still and then said my name with a question mark at the end. She said she isn’t ready to talk but just wanted me to know she was thinking about me and that she hopes im doing ok. What does this mean?
My ex-girlfriend of six months broke up with me almost a month ago. Besides 2-3 texts a couple days after the split, we’ve been in limited contact because we are forced to see each other in school every day. At first I ignored her because I was just feeling many conflicting emotions towards her, and I hoped that she might notice my lack of interest and start to miss me. It looks like she’s doing just fine though, laughing and enjoying life with her other friends, but every time we exchange a glance a look of pity, sadness or remorse comes over her face. She just started smiling at me though, so I did the same in return, and I have the feeling she’s trying to get back on friendly terms with me. One thing she mentioned during the breakup was how she wanted to remain close, and her close friend recently told me that my ex is just waiting for me to reach out and be friendly again, which is hard, cause I still have such strong feelings for her. Should I continue making an effort to be her friend if I want to get her back? Or should I stay in no contact and wait for her to initiate conversation? Like I said, it’s been almost a month since we last spoke in person. Most importantly, does she miss me/want me back, or could she? Or has she already moved on? One important factor is the upcoming summer: in just a few weeks we’ll both be away at camps and won’t see each other at all, but when we get back to school I’ll be seeing a lot of her again. Is there anything I can do over the summer to improve my chances of getting her back in the fall? Like calls or texts or something? Any advice on this topic, as well as general advice on how to get your ex-girlfriend back, would be much appreciated.
Thank you so much!