How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back : The Complete Guide

However heartbroken you feel, trust me, your ex boyfriend is not going to want you back if you show him that you are miserable and/or needy.

You probably have the urge to let him know just how terrible you feel, and how much you miss him, so thathe will feel.. ehm… Feel what? Pity..?

A guy doesn’t fall for a girl out of pity, ever! You’d be amazed though, how many women try to use this “tactic” to get an ex boyfriend back. Please don’t be one of them! To get your ex boyfriend back, you will have to be confident and strong! Girls, I can not stress this enough.

• IMAGINE how it will be when you are back together with your boyfriend. Not like in a memory, but in the future.That part is very important.

• EXPERIENCE how it feels to be back together after you have been apart all this time.. Really feel his arms around you again..Feel his love in how tightly he holds you.. Hear the sweet things he whispers in your ear… How happy he is that he and you are together again.

Try to make this imagination as “real” as possible.

Now realize yourself (and make a mental note right now) thatmany couples get together after a breakup, every single day! This is not just a fantasy, you can achieve this goal if you put your mind to it!

People get back together after the most horrible breakups.. Even lots of people that shouldn’t be together, still get a second (or third) chance.

Why? Well it’s just a matter of biology and psychology.

• BIOLOGY: It’s the chemistry between the two of you. If it “felt right” it probably was right, as far as mother nature is concerned.The two of you share a strong connection, so it is probable that you can make “good” babies together. And your (and his) body picks up on that.
• PSYCHOLOGY: This one is more complicated, and this is where you can put your magic to work.. Psychology is actually pretty simple if you know what you are doing. The only problem is, people act in the wrong way to get their results, and mess up their chances in the process. However, if you KNOW what you are doing, you can play your ex’s feelings like an instrument.

He is still tied to you biologically. You have been together, right? So this shows that he and you are a biological match. The problem you are facing right now is psychological, which means that you can overcome it with the right strategy.

I am convinced that in most cases, if you want it hard enough, you can get your ex boyfriend back! You just have to be strong and smart about it!

OK, I hope that by now you know that you do have a good chance to get your ex boyfriend back. You only need the right information on what you should do and should not do. So let’s continue.

And even more important: Since you are giving him confirmation that you still think about him, he will not feel any pain of missing you. This is definitely not helping to get him back! So whatever you do, don’t call him (unless you have your plan to win him back all laid out, more about that later).

If you have difficulty fighting the urge to call him, then try to keep your focus on your goal: Getting your boyfriend back in your arms! Try the psychological exercise that we did before. Like with most things in life, if you keep the end result in mind, it will just be so much easier!

This may not seem like much of a “get my boyfriend back” tactic, but believe me, it is actually a very powerful method! Let me explain:

If you can find a new hobby or activity to dedicate some of your attention to, you will have less time to miss your ex boyfriend.

Apart from that, you will regain the feeling that you are in control of your life, and experiencing new and interesting things.

Those two factors lead to something very valuable to your goal: You will have more self confidence (and that definitely shows) and your ex boyfriend will notice that you have “moved on”with your life, or at least that you are not suffering full time because he is gone.This works like a red rag on a bull for most guys!

Well so far the basics. I hope you have learned that acting on instinct is a very dangerous thing to do when you try to win your boyfriend back.

So let’s continue with one of my favorite “real life” examples of how to get your ex boyfriend back!

Of course this method won’t be useful to everyone, but if you feel that it might suit your situation, I recommend you give it a try!

Me and my friend Donna came up with this when her boyfriend of three years suddenly broke up with her because he felt that

“He needed his space‘, and

“He wasn’t sure what he was feeling for her anymore“.

Donna was devastated, she loved David with all her heart and didn’t want to lose him!

Luckily, Donna was a psychology student so she knew a thing or two about male psychology. So instead of following her urges to call him up, she did this:

1. Instead of pleading and begging for him, she “just” let him go.(For the moment)
2. She tried the best she could, to not let him see how much the break up hurt her.
3. And then… She took salsa lessons!

This may seem like a strange strategy, and of course Donna had to push herself to do it. But it worked out brilliant:

• It was a big boost for her self esteem (a lot of guys at the dancing class were giving her attention)
• It gave her something to focus on, apart from David
• It gave her a great sense of “adventure”, of doing something new with her life
• And most of all: David heard about the salsa lessons (erm.. yes we made sure he did) and he was extremely jealous about it!

It’s important to know that guys are very “visual minded”. When David heard about the dancing lessons, he immediately visualized Donna with those other men, dancing close together, and probably starting to feel something for one of them..

Before she knew it, David was leaving messages on her cell, saying he made a mistake and they had to talk! Of course Donna made him work for it a bit, before she took him back..

This happened over two years ago, and Donna and David are still together this day!

So there you see: If you play your cards right, make a solid plan an follow it through, then you will have a good chance of getting your ex boyfriend back!

Well these were my ground rules and a real life example that you can use when you try to get your ex boyfriend back. I hope you found this article helpful!

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